Braving the Wilderness PDF Summary

Braving the Wilderness PDF SummaryThe Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone

It’s Brené Brown once again!

Meaning: we don’t have to introduce her at all.

Ever since her TED Talk on vulnerability became one of the Top 5 Talks of all time, Brené Brown has basically become a cultural icon!

You know her, you love her, you want to hear her thoughts on everything.

So, join her as he shares her most valuable lessons on:

Braving the Wilderness.

Who Should Read “Braving the Wilderness”? And Why?

By now, you should be already familiar with most of Brené Brown’s interests: vulnerability and courage, humiliation and pride, belonging and being an outsider.

In Braving the Wilderness she tackles once again all of them, mostly focusing on the last one of these dichotomies.

And, just like most of her other books, this one also analyzes the problems in a way which should attract both students of social sciences and common folks who just need someone to talk to.

Well, hurting people, Brené Brown is certainly someone you’ll enjoy having a chat with.

About Brené Brown

Brené BrownBrené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston and New York Times bestselling author.

She has spent over two decades studying under-researched topics such as vulnerability and courage, empathy and shame, and is widely considered one of the world’s most read and beloved experts on these subjects.

She is the author of half a dozen books, most of which we’ve summarized here: I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t) (2007); The Gifts of Imperfection (2010); Daring Greatly (2012); and Rising Strong (2015).

Braving the Wilderness was published last year (2017) and Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts. – Brown’s most recent book – just four days ago.

Brown’s 2010 TED Talk, “The Power of Vulnerability,” has been seen over 36 million times (as of October 2018) and is one of the five most viewed TED Talks in history.

“Braving the Wilderness PDF Summary”

We all live in a bubble.

And no, we’re not talking about multiverses or Bitcoin or any other kind of scientific or economic bubble.

No.

We’re talking about something that, based on urgency, may be even more serious.

Namely, the filter bubble.

Put simply, the filter bubble is a state of intellectual isolation caused by personalized searches. They make your life easier, of course, but they also make humanity’s future bleaker.

Why?

Because instead of using the Internet to connect with other people with different experiences and worldviews, you are using it to reinforce your previous beliefs and disconnect from everything else!

The Internet was supposed to usher us into an age of interrelatedness; instead, it is merely making us lonelier by the minute.

Enter stage Brené Brown.

Brené Brown, the Outsider

You see her now all smiling and vivacious and you are immediately overwhelmed by the feeling that she has her life all figured out.

And then you hear her sharing some of her past experiences and you realize that she may have already had more problems than you ever will.

In fact, most of Brené Brown’s childhood was marred by a crushing fear that she doesn’t belong anywhere.

As a little girl, she was oftentimes marginalized by everybody. It was a poisonous racially segregated environment and the white girls at her school didn’t like her African-sounding names: Brené and Cassandra (Brown’s middle name); on the other hand, her African-American friends of hers were somewhat afraid to hang out with her.

So, she was neither here nor there for most of her childhood.

Thigs got only worse in high school where she badly wanted to become part of her school’s cheerleading team, the Bearkadettes. Just like her mother – who had met her father in this manner. (Stop guessing: her father was indeed the star of the football team).

Brown did everything within her power to become a member of the Bearkadettes; unfortunately, neither the liquid diet nor her perfect routine didn’t help her make it.

And to top this off, her parents were disappointed in her for not making it to the team.

To fight pains such as this, Brené started to drink. So much, in fact, that she had to join the AA.

Guess what?

They didn’t want her there either, suggesting her to try the Co-Dependents Anonymous group instead!

Brené Brown Discovering Herself

Most of the people you know have gone through what Brené Brown did in her early years.

And it always boils down to the same problem:

We put a lot of energy to belong to something; read between the lines and that means that you are, in fact, putting a lot of energy to be something that, deep inside, you are not.

Back in 1987 Brené Brown was at one of the worst stages in her life. She spent most of her time drinking and smoking, partying even when she had no energy for it.

That was her way of forgetting about herself.

And then she met Steve, the man she would eventually marry.

The best part about Steve?

He saw through Brené’s attempts to belong somewhere; and started guiding her toward self-belonging. Three decades later Brown would explain to the world how she managed to do this, as a guest on Oprah.

Namely, permission slips.

Suddenly, next to Steve, Brené realized that she could permit herself to be the person she actually was. No conventions, no exhausting liquid diets you need to go through so that you can be accepted.

Just herself.

In fact, her fist permission slip stated: “Be goofy, have fun and enjoy life.”

And she has tried doing that ever since.

Brave the Wilderness Inside You

You are such a unique individual that no one has ever lived a life like the one you’re currently living.

That’s as close to a fact as an opinion can get.

So, it’s only natural that conventional wisdom may not work: your own self is a one-of-a-kind wilderness.

Whatever you do – treat it as such.

Of course, this means that your path through it is also unique and that you need to find it on your own. But, believe us – you will!

Because, deep down inside you, you actually know that walking inside it is what life is all about. “If you can see your path laid out in front of you step by step,” advised Joseph Campbell, “you know it’s not your path. Your own path you make with every step you take. That’s why it’s your path.”

And Campbell was one of the smartest and most inspiring people of the 20th century.

So:

Stop walking through the world looking for confirmation that you don’t belong. You will always find it because you’ve made that your mission. Stop scouring people’s faces for evidence that you’re not enough. You will always find it because you’ve made that your goal. True belonging and self-worth are not goods; we don’t negotiate their value with the world. The truth about who we are lives in our hearts. Our call to courage is to protect our wild heart against constant evaluation, especially our own. No one belongs here more than you.

Key Lessons from “Braving the Wilderness”

1.      The First Lesson of Self-Belonging: Brave the Wilderness Inside You
2.      The Seven Traits of Trustworthy People
3.      Tackling Loneliness and Ways to Burst the Bubble

The First Lesson of Self-Belonging: Brave the Wilderness Inside You

There’s a reason why everybody wants to belong to someone or something.

And that reason is quite obvious: it’s quite difficult to go through life alone. Men are social beings – and that’s exactly what Aristotle thought was their defining trait.

However, it is difficult to belong somewhere if you don’t know who you are. In that case, all of your attempts to become part of a group are actually wild guesses, shots in the dark. “Be careful who you pretend to be,” warned us once Kurt Vonnegut. “You might forget who you are.”

Well, Brené Brown is here to update this advice.

The best way to forget who you are, she says, is to never understand yourself completely in the first place.

And if you want to do that, be prepared to make some steps in the wilderness:

Belonging so fully to yourself that you’re willing to stand alone is a wilderness — an untamed, unpredictable place of solitude and searching. It is a place as dangerous as it is breathtaking, a place as sought after as it is feared. The wilderness can often feel unholy because we can’t control it, or what people think about our choice of whether to venture into that vastness or not. But it turns out to be the place of true belonging, and it’s the bravest and most sacred place you will ever stand.

Look at it this way: nobody belongs to this place more than you.

Even if a wilderness, your self is a very unique place: your very own, personal Shangri-La.

And nobody can explore it better than you!

The Seven Traits of Trustworthy People

Self-belonging is not as easy as it sounds.

It means making yourself open to your traumas and pains and vulnerable to other people’s opinions and judgments.

But it’s worth it!

Especially if you can find trustworthy people you can talk to, dependable friends ready to listen to your

According to Brené Brown, these people share these seven traits:

1. They are reliable, which is self-evident;
2. They own their mistakes which is something people rarely do nowadays;
3. They are capable of respecting boundaries, meaning they know that they should leave you alone when you want to be alone, even if that means going to the cinema without company;
4. They are capable of keeping confidential information safe; so, be wary of people who can’t keep your secrets because the betrayal of trust is one of the most traumatic experiences one can go through;
5. They are capable of making decisions with integrity; integrity is underrated in a world of lies and money;
6. They are non-judgmental; they know that we all make mistakes and that pointing them out repeatedly helps no one;
7. They are generous; with everything; meaning: with them, you’re never the only one who shares.

Tackling Loneliness and Ways to Burst the Bubble

If you’re feeling that people are too divided, then be aware that it’s not exactly a feeling: it’s a fact.

For example, only a quarter of Americans supported a specific candidate overwhelmingly back in 1976; however, just a few years ago, more than four fifths were either strongly for Trump or strongly for Hillary Clinton! And, in the meantime, the number of people who describe themselves as lonely more than doubled!

We explained at the beginning of our summary why this is happening. The same mechanism applies to both examples. Put simply, we live in a world designed to keep us inside a bubble.

We don’t experience anything out of our comfort zone, because it’s so easy to stay inside it: personalized ads, personalized searches, and even personalized channels.

The solution spells itself: do the opposite of what Google or YouTube or your inside voice suggests you! Experiment! Experience the difference! And see for yourself whatever suits you best.

At a certain point during your journey, you’ll undoubtedly come across a place, a person, a point where it will all make sense.

Congratulations: you’ve found your way through your inner wilderness.

Now you belong to yourself.

The side-effect?

You already belong to others as well.

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Our Critical Review

“It is inevitable —we will fall,” notes Simon Sinek in a review of Braving the Wilderness. “We will fail. We will not know how to react or what to do. No matter how or when it happens, we will all have a choice—do we get up or not? Thankfully,” he adds, “Brené Brown is there with an outstretched arm to help us up.”

Just like most of Brown’s books, Braving the Wilderness does feel as if an outstretched arm. It is both compassionate and empowering. Add to that mixture a lot of goodhearted humor and few mantras you’ll never forget – and you have a reason why you should read this book as soon as possible.

Especially if you feel like nobody understands you.

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Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself PDF Summary

Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself PDF SummaryHow to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One

Tired of being yourself?

What if there was a way to reinvent yourself from scratch?

And what if you already know this way intuitively, and have already mastered it, but in the wrong departments?

Intrigued?

Let Dr. Joe Dispenza explain you the rest.

And start Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself today!

Who Should Read “Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself”? And Why?

Let’s face it: no matter who you are, your life has almost certainly been plagued by bad habits ever since you were a child. And since this is a book about how to break them – then it is undoubtedly a book recommendable to just about anyone.

However, we feel that we need to warn you straight from the start about a couple of things.

First of all, Dispenza’s book references many scientific concepts from different fields, so be prepared to grapple with some light neurobiology and quantum physics if you want to embark on this journey of self-remodeling with Dr. Dispenza.

Even so, Dispenza’s basic premise (the reversal of the thinking/doing relation) is not exactly widely accepted as a scientific fact. Which doesn’t necessarily mean that his methods wouldn’t work; it merely means that they might have been explained away here in a challengeable way.

By the way, if you want a book about habits most scientists approve of, then check out Charles Duhigg’s The Power of Habit.

About Dr. Joe Dispenza

Dr. Joe DispenzaDr. Joe Dispenza is a chiropractor, educator, lecturer and New York Times bestselling author. He also holds degrees in biochemistry and neuroscience.

He is the author of several books dealing with health and wellbeing, most of them published by Hay House. In his 2014 book, You Are the Placebo: Making Your Mind Matter, he explores human’s ability to heal without surgery or drugs but through thought alone.

He builds upon this notion in Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One, Evolve Your Brain: The Science of Changing Your Mind and Becoming Supernatural.

Find out more at www.drjoedispenza.com

“Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself PDF Summary”

At one point during their beautiful correspondence, René Descartes writes to Elisabeth, Princess of Bohemia, that thinking people are capable of being unhappy regardless of how happy their circumstances actually are.

In other words, even if everything is going your way, your mind can still bother with things such as why someone else – even someone you don’t really know – is feeling bad at the same moment; and, thus, still cause you genuinely pain and unhappiness.

Even though the above is an undeniable fact – we’re sure you’ve gone through similar feelings at some point in your life – we seem incapable of grasping its real implications.

Namely, if your brain can make you feel unhappy even though you should objectively be happy, why shouldn’t the reverse be true as well?

Or to rephrase that in the form of a question Dr. Joe Dispenza poses: “Can you accept the notion that once you change your internal state, you don’t need the external world to provide you with a reason to feel joy, gratitude, appreciation, or any other elevated emotion?”

If not – stay with us.

We’re about to explain to you why you should.

Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life… Because of Quantum Physics

Yes, that’s the title of a Brian Tracy book.

But it’s also the main idea of Dispenza’s book. And the author digs deep to explain it. So, we guess we have to do the same as well.

Now, we’ve already mentioned quantum physics before, but the only thing we had the time to point out to you back then was how strange and bizarre it is. And we summed up this strangeness in a single sentence: “Believe it or not, quantum particles assume characteristics only when observed!”

Well, this is what attracted Dispenza’s attention the most. And the best way to demonstrate what it could mean in practical terms is by using a thought experiment.

The Schrödinger’s cat thought experiment.

Now, the science behind its weird consequences is unquestionable. And it boils down to this: a quantum system – say, an atom or a photon – can exist in multiple mutually exclusive states at one single moment. This is called quantum superposition, and it’s bizarre to even think about in theory.

And yet – it works in practice as well. That’s why we can have such a thing as a quantum computer, in fact; unlike regular computers which transfer information in terms of bits, quantum computers transfer it in terms of qubits. And unlike bits which can be either in the state of 1 or in the state of 0, qubits can be in a superimposed state, that is, a 10 or 01!

Back to our cat.

If we put it in a box with an object that emits radioactive waves, undoubtedly at some point it would die. However, quantum physics suggest that until we open the box, we must assume that it is both alive and dead.

Because the cat too is built of atoms. And that’s how quantum superposition works!

The Potential You’ll Be That You’ll Never See

Now, that’s a line from an Elliott Smith song.

But it’s also something Dispenza firmly believes in – and wants you to understand it!

If you still have problems understanding the experiment above, allow us to help you a bit: matter may not be as definitive as we thought a century ago. It seems that everything behaves as both a particle and a wave.

It is our scientific observations which allow us to fix things into more permanent forms – i.e., change their state from waves to particles (something called, the wave function collapse). As strange as this sounds, most scientists think this interpretation of quantum mechanics – called the Copenhagen Interpretation – is our best guess at how the universe works.

If you think that’s strange, wait till you hear how SF its consequences sound!

We don’t have time to explain this in detail, but in brief: if something can be in superposition of all its possible states at once and if it is our observation which reduces the superposition to a single state, and, finally, if it is true that information mustn’t be lost, then there is an infinite number of parallel universes (a many-worlds multiverse) across which practically everything has already happened, is happening or will happen!

What does this mean in more practical you-related terms?

Well, that our universe hides the potential of every single reality imaginable. It is through our observations that we reduce this potential to a single reality. And since our observations come from our brains, then basically our unhappiness is the product of our wrong thinking.

Change your thinking, change your life isn’t merely a metaphor.

It’s literally what may be happening every single second.

Live Out Your Desires in the Present

“Whether you think you can,” noted Henry Ford once, “or you think you can’t, you’re right.”

We believe we already made a case why Ford would think that.

Some of the greatest scientists alive believe that it is entirely possible that we are living in a “universal choose-your-own-adventure” narrative!

The difference between our lives and choose-your-own-adventure books, however, is that in the latter case, you can always go back to the branching page and choose once again to experience the other adventure.

However, life doesn’t work that way: every choice you make leads to an irreversible outcome which leads to another decision, and so on and so forth.

There are no undos in life.

However, as many books have taught you by now, there are dreams and fantasies and creative visualizations.

Well, Dispenza has a message for them all:

The quantum field responds not to what we want; it responds to who we are being.

In other words, thinking isn’t enough. (If it was, Rachel Hollis would have probably married Matt Damon.)

Thinking is merely the starting point of the process of reducing all of your possible realities to the one you want to live in. However, if you want to make your desired reality real, well, do precisely that. Namely start acting as if you are already living inside your visualizations.

But that’s something biology and neuroscience can probably explain much better.

Your Three Brains

Thinking happens in the first of your three brains: the Neocortex. The Limbic brain is the second one – that one’s responsible for your emotions. Finally, the third one is the cerebellum, responsible for your habits and your behaviors.

These three brains are interrelated, so you can’t change anything if you use only one of them. You need to force them to communicate so you can translate your thoughts into genuine emotions and actions and your actions into your character.

Here’s how it works in practice!

Say you want to become a more courageous person.

The first step is to activate your neocortex. Meaning: you need to find yourself a model – or, even better, models – and study their actions. You want to be a Maya Angelou or a Winston Churchill? Read about them and teach your neocortex what they did to become who they are.

Then, it’s time to put your Limbic brain into action. When a situation arises which demands bravery, willingly force your body to act the way you tried teaching yourself is the best one.

Now that your body has acquired an understanding of bravery, it will be easy to repeat the action you’ve already done once in the next similar circumstance. After all, they don’t say for nothing that the first time is the toughest.

Do a thing two or three times, and you can be sure that your cerebellum has registered it as a part of your character.

Meaning: you’ve successfully gone through the process of becoming who you want to be!

Key Lessons from “Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself”

1.      Become Who You Want to Be – From Brain Cell to Gene
2.      Don’t Play Out Your Past Memories – Live Through Your Future Fantasies Instead
3.      Learn How to Bridge the Identity Gap and Be Happy

Become Who You Want to Be – From Brain Cell to Gene

“The latest research,” writes Dr. John Dispenza, “supports the notion that we have a natural ability to change the brain and body by thought alone so that it looks biologically like some future event has already happened. Because you can make thought more real than anything else, you can change who you are from brain cell to gene, given the right understanding.”

In other words, science has all but proven the truth of an old adage: “Watch your thoughts, they become words, watch your words, they become actions, watch your actions, they become habits, watch your habits, they become character, watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”

You can find that quote in numerous different versions, but the link is always the same: it starts with thoughts; it ends with character and destiny!

Don’t Play Out Your Past Memories – Live Through Your Future Fantasies Instead

The reason why you are more than your genes is your brain; and, unsurprisingly, your brain can affect your genes.

In fact, it does precisely that even as you’re reading this article. However, the problem is that you are not exactly using its full potential, basically limiting yourself to being what your past has nonchalantly taught you without your intervention.

Think about it this way: you won’t change if you are living out your memories. Because that’s exactly who you are in the first place.

But you can change if you are living out your fantasies. Because that’s who you want to become in the future.

Or, in the words of Dispenza:

When you think from your past memories, you can only create past experiences. As all of the ‘knowns’ in your life cause your brain to think and feel in familiar ways, thus creating knowable outcomes, you continually reaffirm your life as you know it. And since your brain is equal to your environment, then each morning, your senses plug you into the same reality and initiate the same stream of consciousness… If you want a new outcome, you will have to break the habit of being yourself, and reinvent a new self.

Learn How to Bridge the Identity Gap and Be Happy

Now, be aware that becoming who you want to be doesn’t mean that you’ll end up being happy. There are people who have perfect lives and, yet, they struggle. According to Dispenza, the reason for this is because they are not exactly themselves.

Because who you are is at least two people to start with; how you see yourself and how others see you. This is the identity gap everyone has to deal with on a daily basis.

You can only be happy if you bridge the gap; that is, if others start seeing you the way you see yourself.

You can do that using some of the methods above.

Dispenza also offers a shortcut: meditation.

Because meditating, as he explains, is “a means for you to move beyond your analytical mind so that you can access your subconscious mind. That’s crucial, since the subconscious is where all your bad habits and behaviors that you want to change reside.”

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Our Critical Review

Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself is a unique way of linking your habits and your happiness with neuroscience and quantum physics. We are not experts enough to know how much of it actually holds water.

But we do know people who are happy with the results of putting in practice some of its advices. So, if you are like us: ignore the science; but try the exercises.

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Inner Engineering PDF Summary

Inner Engineering PDFA Yogi’s Guide to Joy

The process of finding your true-self runs like a leitmotif throughout the book.

Perhaps, you won’t be able to understand the powerful thrust of Sadhguru’s message, until you still your mind and quiet your urges.

Beleaguered or not, we all are entitled to delve into the real self and put secondary matters on the side.

Stay with us, as we reveal the key findings from this #1 New York Times bestselling book.

Who Should Read “Inner Engineering”? And Why?

The title itself denotes purity and inner alteration, which is something every person should consider doing. The central premise of this book revolves around the birth of a concept-free person.

Therefore, we firmly believe that “Inner Engineering” deserves a place on your bookshelf. Even if you don’t agree with Sadhguru’s methods, we recommend it because it will expand your horizons.

SadhguruAbout Sadhguru

So, who is Jaggi Vasudev – Sadhguru? When I first laid eyes upon him in a YouTube Video, I thought that he is yet another spiritual teacher.

What I didn’t know is the fact that, he is also a successful businessman, acclaimed author, and a Yogi. Many people refer to him as a mystic, but as far as I can tell, Sadhguru is a complete person!

And this is the truth since he explains how you can free yourself of negativity, remain in the neutrality of the self, and continue your contribution to the society through education and business.

“Inner Engineering PDF Summary”

Sadhguru is no stranger to those who sought salvation and stumbled upon a Youtube video, or a written script, such as this one. According to many renowned journals, “Inner Engineering” is one of the most in-depth and life-altering books on spirituality ever written.

It stands to reason, why you should at least scan it through. Our main guy in India shared with me many cool facts about Indians, and I was stunned by their contrast, positively of course.

To be honest, Sadhguru is the embodiment of the picture portrayed by my good friend. An individual who has integrated both spiritual and professional agendas, and used this momentum to create a far-reaching scope of success.

Without further ado, let’s plunge into some actionable tips and practices contained in this astonishing book.

The first thing that will strike you while reading is that we are masters of our own lives, either consciously or unconsciously. So, passing the blame onto somebody else is not an endorsed approach.

So, if somebody were to ask you – Do you prefer being rich or happy?

Even those that went from rags to riches in a short amount of time, they did it because they hoped that happiness is on the receiving end. Sadhguru implies that we yearn to get our hands on this blissful experience while looking at the wrong place.

Does this mean that we should remain poor for the rest of our lives? Absolutely not, it merely indicates that whatever we do in the 24 Hour timeframe, the primary stimulus is reaching a state of contentment or pure joy.

It’s needless to say that the Yogi guide, is presented in a digestible manner, for you to tackle these delusions.

Sadhguru, on numerous occasions, expressed that happiness is not a decision, but a reality. Contentment is not a passing state of mind, but the eternal state of the real-self.

Generally speaking, people seeking adrenaline type of happiness, often find themselves drained and exhausted of the pursuit they’ve been urged to conduct. The simplest way to reach peace of mind is to cherish an effortless battle.

You don’t need to swim, but embrace the life-current and go with the flow. Although this seems like a simple tweak, not many people dare to exploit it. We want to pave our own way, and putting trust in some mystical energy is our second choice.

We’ll get to that, but first, let’s talk about a few things that are causing a lot of confusion.

To attain bliss, you must eradicate all the things that are giving you a headache. And that’s just the beginning. Next up, one must question its ideals, and stay peaceful while doing it.

The restless mind is like a car. It goes 150 Mph only because you filled up the fuel tank. Start wasting your symbolic “money” on something that will help you instead of harm you.

The Power of becoming a Yogi

Many ponder about the effects of Yoga. Sadguru asserts that the science of being perfect is reflected in nature, not in the person. What does that mean?

Reaching allignment or harmony with existence is impossible if you remain narrow-minded and stubborn. What yoga does is helping you maintain the highest level of enthusiasm and joy toward life. This can be later converted into full-scale enlightenment or understanding one’s core self.

According to the author, yoga is a mix of intellect, karma, energy, and devotion also known as “bhakti.” By combining these factors, you may get in line for becoming truly happy, while remaining active and persistent.

Indeed, not being aware of your inner reality has taken a toll on humanity. The previously mentioned scenarios are not reserved only for the privileged few, but they symbolize the never-fading truth that is embedded into the hearts and minds of every living soul.

At the outset, Sadhguru refers to the body and examines its functions on this endeavor. It’s the most basic form of identification, therefore, it’s advisable that we start from there.

Instead of wasting your time on trivial activities, find a quiet place and sit there for a few minutes each day. The question is Why? What is the goal behind this?

You see, that’s the trick! Throughout the course of history, society has always been prone to attach some end goal to everything. At this point, you must embrace detachment, and leave the body be! Just pay attention to the breath, going in, and out – focus on that for a while.

You don’t need to pressure yourself; a few minutes is more than enough to get the ball rolling. Once the effort required to remain aware reduces, you’ll start connecting with nature. You will become the axis around which all the rest spins.

In yoga, you’ll learn how to channel your body energy and a few postures that can accentuate your inner journey. Having said that, don’t take it as an objective, because it’s not. Sadhguru teaches you, to trust the body, follow its instincts and strive to purify your mind from meaningless concepts.

Eating Habits and Alignment with Nature

We are going to start here with a Latin saying: Mens sana in corpore sano or – A healthy mind in a healthy body.

In case you might be wondering, why so many spiritual gurus and truth seekers walked barefoot – it’s because of the connection between the person and the earth. It’s a special bond that helped them to absorb the universal energies.

Sitting next to a tree for a couple of minutes can put you into a state of deep rest. In this book, you’ll find a handful of practices that you can try and experiment with, in order to quiet your mind.

When it comes to the diet, you have to bear in mind that whatever you put in reflects the quality of your life. It’s safe to say that natural ingredients, and organic food determine the vitality of your system, and energize your body.

Once you realize that, you’ll subtly enter into the category of conscious eaters, who are not driven by animal urges. You have to bring benefit to your body, by maintaining its vigorousness and advocating for a healthy diet.

Sadhguru is not merely covering the nutritional value, but place emphasis on life as a whole. For instance, consuming seeds can immensely improve your health condition and add to your overall endurance.

For a greater effect, and total eradication of toxic elements within the body, you must apply a new life strategy that consists of conscious digestion.

Don’t be surprised to hear that according to Sadhguru, eating food is not within the context of spirituality. Depending on your preferences and lifestyle, you should choose a diet, because one set of ingredients is not a good fit for everybody.

The key is – compatibility. Make sure that the diet assigned to your lifestyle fits your high-minded ambitions or introvert style of living.

So, is this it? – Well, not quite! Sadhguru prioritizes the digestive system and explains how each type of food should be eaten. You’ll also take a gander at the most digestible food additives and many other things.

You should also know that 55% of the digestions takes place in the mouth, and the rest of it is done in the digestive system itself.

How to behave? – When you feel immense hunger, give your body a few minutes to calm down. Don’t submit to the urges, but maintain control despite the situation that prompts you to behave somewhat beastly.

Also, bear in mind that staying physically active must also become part of your daily lifestyle. It doesn’t matter whether you prefer to take a morning jog or play some other sport.

Just get up, and focus on your overall well-being.

The Choice of Life

Love is an unexplainable phenomenon, which entails one’s mental, physical, and psychological cravings. Often we hear that true love is unconditional, but it mustn’t be solely linked to physical needs. There are as many interpretations as they are stars in the night sky.

Being enamored of someone is just one tiny fraction, not the whole package. The spiritual love, is the cornerstone for finding blissfulness, but it can also absorb a wide array of connotations. Evidently, associating love with other aspects can take an awful lot of time.

For instance, you can be very fond of some painting, or someone’s life philosophy. So, it’s vital to stick with the root and leave the branches aside, for the time being.

According to the author, the choices we make are an integral part of this love. Whatever you do, or plan to achieve, passion must be your primary incentive to carry something out inwardly.

Don’t take this the wrong way, since the intrinsic intelligence, Sadhguru is referring to is given to you in the form of existence. You are not either blessed nor cursed. You can utilize it in its entirety, without having to jump into conclusions.

Previously we stated that happiness is not a transient state that lies at the end of a treacherous journey. It’s your birthright, something that doesn’t come and go.

During the process, you’ll identify with temporary concepts, but as you become more aware, these sensations will turn into pointless attachments.

Key Lessons from “Inner Engineering”

1.      Reconnect with nature
2.      The perilous journey to freedom
3.      Expand your horizons

Reconnect with nature

If this process seems a bit overwhelming, you can ask yourself – Why the westerners enjoy spending time in parks, and picnics in the countryside?

It’s the same process – our body urges us to get in touch with the source, which in this case represents the Earth.

The perilous journey to freedom

How long does it take before you finally have a tenacious grip on the slipping happiness? 20 years of meditation, 50?

The outward journey takes too long, and what’s worse, the end is nowhere near. The inner pull, however, is just staying wherever you are as an observer.

Expand your horizons

If you are merely interested in separating moral from immoral, or right and wrong, your mind will always be imprisoned in this circle.

Leaving the judgmental urges aside will help you establish control over your life, and show you the only route to spiritual enhancement.

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Our Critical Review

Well, we feel sorry that we can’t relate to everything mentioned in this book, but we urge you to take some time off and read this astonishing masterpiece.

Sadhguru is one of the best spiritual teachers of today, so it most definitely requires some attention.

You’ll not only benefit from his words, but you’ll also be prompted to implement these practices in your life.

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The Power of Your Subconscious Mind PDF Summary

The Power of Your Subconscious Mind PDFHave you ever pondered about your real potential? Are we merely a wave tossed in the endless ocean, or the ocean itself?

In this book, you’ll come across many life-altering theories that will crash your inner world.

Climb aboard!

Who Should Read “The Power of Your Subconscious Mind”? And Why?

The society has done a “great” job when it comes to shrinking your ability and prowess. You are a prisoner, not aware of its captivity. Locked away in a self-created prison is an everyday reality for most people.

The Power of Your Subconscious Mind” brings these delusions into the light, and compels you to do the rethinking.

In all sincerity, we believe that this is one of those books written for the sake of the world. So, categorization of the audience will be an unnecessary action.

Joseph MurphyAbout Joseph Murphy

Joseph Murphy was a life-changer whose words contained in inspiring books helped millions. He spent a significant portion of his adulthood in India, learning the secrets of Eastern Philosophy.

He wrote dozens of books, all revolving around the mysterious nature of this existence.

“The Power of Your Subconscious Mind PDF Summary”

You don’t need us telling you that one mind is all we have. Nonetheless, this questionable and mysterious central element consists of:

  • Conscious Mind
  • Subconscious Mind

The first part belongs to what can be best described as the “objective” one. It allows you to make choices, reach agreements, assess predicaments, etc. It’s also labeled as the “surface” mind. The second and somewhat mythical one is the subconscious mind.

It is engraved deep into your “core self” making it the “sleeping mind.” The subconscious entity is the stage, while the conscious body represents the actors on stage. This metaphorical expression should allow you to see the big picture and understand the role of both.

The fundamental elements of the mind

It’s needless to say that you can tip the balance in your favor by learning the ropes of how your mind works. So, the privilege of executing everyday tasks goes to the conscious element, while the subconscious one is in charge of evaluating the actions of it.

It’s like a deep ocean; you’ll never know what’s hiding at the bottom of it but that mustn’t stop you from going deeper and deeper. In addition, being happier is merely the end result of a broad understanding of how your mind operates and its core functions. The thinking, as we said, goes to the conscious, and that’s why if you send positive vibes to the universe, you’ll be on the receiving end of positive affirmations.

It’s like a boomerang throw, as simple as that.

Be obsessed with negative thoughts, and you’ll slowly start to plunge into a deep depression. The universal energies are not as complex as you might have imagined. According to the author, the subconscious mind is like an obedient soldier who follows orders given by the conscious entity.

In other words, your subconscious is open to receive commands and interpret them to your best interest.

These orders or norms arrive in the form of suggestions, which the subconscious mind is entitled to depict them as it feels. How your body reacts, what kind of thoughts do you nurture will all be transmitted into the invisible entity.

After all, you are accorded the privilege of organizing the chatter of various internal phenomena.

This process helps you understand how “negative suggestion” can impact your well-being, affect your temper, and instigate fear. Joseph states that “pessimistic autosuggestions” are insanely powerful and can quickly put you in a phase of jeopardy.

This paradoxical but also a convenient way of operating gives the subconscious mind a new feature – its obedience. It doesn’t question your demands and absorbs “syllogism”- which in layman’s terms indicates that whatever you endorse or consider to be true, your subconscious will do likewise.

In our opinion, the best description for this way of functioning is – You reap what you sow. Fill your head with meaningless concepts, and that’s what you’ll eventually end up with. Marinate on that for a minute.

Let’s get back to the drawing board and puzzle over what separates happy from miserable people? If you want a straightforward answer, you’re going to get one – the way they handle the subconscious entity. They understand its limitless, freedom and ability to get in touch with the infinite source of energy.

The harmonious state exists in the subconscious mind, but only if you allow it to be. If you just go with the flow and don’t fight the life current, you’ll automatically be in that position. Nonetheless, if try to pave your own way, with total disregard of your intrinsic urges, you’ll stimulate negative sensations.

The goal of this book is to teach you how you can blend the conscious and subconscious to the maximum extent. We also like to portray the subconsciousness as a mirror, which reflects your doings on the outside.

As with most things in life, you need to push harder to get to your wanted destination. When it comes to your subconscious mind, sometimes less is best. By believing in your cause, and getting rid of harmful tendencies, you’ll spontaneously reach your goals and satisfy your cravings.

The Myth and Reality of the Subconscious Mind

Aware or not, your subconscious plays a pivotal role in your life, in particular, your well-being. The way you handle everyday issues, emotional outbursts, and psychological setbacks speak about your attitude and understanding of the “hidden self.”

Some people prefer to call this energy God, others Infinity – it doesn’t quite matter how you name it, what does matter is your faith in it. You will be happy for sure, once you abandon the meaningless limitations imposed by the system.

Happiness is a choice, not a God-given gift. If you decide to take firm control of your destiny, happiness will follow. Sometimes we feel indebted to people who showed us the way, but mostly this is the path that your heart has already chosen on your behalf.

Living in the now is perhaps the best advice you’ll ever get. Don’t roam around in the unforeseeable future but remain consistent and allow your mind to cherish the present reality.

Once the pain and the urges for interpreting the past or wishing a better future are gone, you are good to go. A vast majority of the population seeks salvation from the outside. A word of caution – don’t become one of those people who are prepared to sacrifice their blissfulness in order to get attention.

When it comes to love, it’s of utmost importance to realize that in order to have a lovely marriage filled with understanding, and mutual trust, there must be a spiritual connection between the partners.

In a symbolic manner, it’s pretty accurate to say that you’ll attract a partner whose traits are complementary to your subconscious mind.

Furthermore, if you wish to find an intelligent, confident, and caring life-companion, you need to express that desire. Many individuals these days complain due to the lack of synergy between partners, but that’s only a sub-product of the messages conveyed through their subconscious.

Tackle these harmful inclinations by nurturing a positive mindset, through prayer and self-contemplation. In addition, try not to turn your marriage into a business! You don’t need to go after the perfect partner at any cost, but work on your self-expression and give the Universe a room to do its job.  

Try not to take 2 steps forward and 3 steps back by following unclear directions. If you are not sure which road is the right one, stay calm and contemplate through meditation and prayer. The ignorant part of the mind will jump to give its conclusion and force you into negative thinking.

Beware of these tendencies by staying on full alert. A common mistake most people make is complaining about the partner to other people. They are just empowering the negative thoughts to take over and destroy the union.

A good technique you can use is to never, under no circumstances, transfer today’s problems over into the next days. Forgive one another daily, and pray at dinner or before you hit the rack. This doesn’t seem like much, but it is a huge morale boost for the couple.

Doing more things together, and forgiving rather than memorizing everything will definitely help you strengthen the bond. Convey harmony, love, and understanding. If you believe that constructive criticism is useful, then use it, but try not to be too harsh.

Be an advocate for compassion, not judgment.

The Healing Method

A throwback to ancient times and the medieval age, when people reported miracles in various forms. Even these days, this sort of occurrences leave a trace in the society. Mixed with cultural and religious paradigms, most people associate these “wonders” with God.

Upon finishing the healing procedures through God’s disciples on Earth, the person would’ve felt an instant change.

First and foremost, not all people believe in this kind of stories, and that’s okay, but the meaning behind it is that all is possible with the right mindset. The herbs given and rituals conducted by the priests had a placebo effect, which urged the person to believe in the healing.

Tackling the previous state of mind was made possible through the “auto-suggestion mode” which the subconscious interprets and gives its answer to it. By accepting the healing, the person rises and embraces its new reality.

The author emphasizes that this effect can merely take place, once you abandon your negative thoughts and keep them buried! For instance, don’t dream about the future, just incorporate the same vision into the present moment.

In the same fashion, you should direct your efforts toward the final destination. Remain focused during the process, and subdue your impulses to judge the situation. By staying positive through prayer and other methods, you’ll send positive affirmations to the Universe, and enable the spiritual healing to take place.

The same approach can be used when you aspire to achieve some goal. The author implies that with the help of visualization, your subconscious will understand your cravings and provide a response that manifests your deep urges in body and mind.

This will create a mental picture that takes you one step closer to your desired accomplishment.

Rinse and repeat until you master the “universal principles,” and how it affects your well-being. Although our perception of what it is to be sensibly well-off keeps altering, the bar keeps rising to unmeasurable scales.

Expressing gratitude can get the ball rolling, and help you conquer your own mind. Tackle the false reality, and set your agenda that fits your needs.

Sleep deprivation can also turn out to be a big issue. You need at least 6 hours a day to function properly, perhaps even more. Even when your body is in a state of deep relaxation, your subconscious mind remains active.

You should learn how to relax your body, and commit to sleep to have a tenacious grip on your life.

Key Lessons from “The Power of Your Subconscious Mind”

1.      Be open-minded
2.      Tackle depression with a single step
3.      Measure your actions

Be open-minded

Control this emotional unrest by trying to talk some sense into your partner, and see who is adding fuel to the fire.

Don’t raise your tone when discussing these matters; try to get into the shoes of the other person to see things from his/her point of view.

Tackle depression with a single step

The best cure for depression is your determination to be happy, without necessarily turning over to the painful past or uncertain future.

The energy around us is giving you a hand to endure in this battle and make heads or tails of how the power of the subconscious works.

Measure your actions

Practice faith, and visualize in the now, because you’ll never be in the future.

According to the Bible, you’ll receive, in accordance with your faith, so when attempting to heal yourself, bear this in mind and act accordingly.

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Just keep your conscious mind busy with expectation of the best. Click To Tweet All of us have our own inner fears, beliefs, opinions. These inner assumptions rule and govern our lives. A suggestion has no power in and of itself. Its power arises from the fact that you accept it mentally. Click To Tweet Busy your mind with the concepts of harmony, health, peace, and good will, and wonders will happen in your life. Click To Tweet As you sow in your subconscious mind, so shall you reap in your body and environment. Click To Tweet He awakened to the simple truth that it is never what a person says or does that affects him, it is his reaction to what is said or done that matters. Click To Tweet

Our Critical Review

The first edition of this classic was originally published back in 1962. Since then, due to the evergreen tips and quotes, the value of the book hasn’t diminished.

It’s still one of the most life-changing books ever written. We enjoyed every bit of it.

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Stealing Fire PDF Summary

Stealing Fire PDFHow Silicon Valley, the Navy SEALs, and Maverick Scientists Are Revolutionizing the Way We Live and Work

Steve Jobs once said that taking LSD was not merely “a profound experience,” but also “one of the two or three most important things” he had done in his life.

Stealing Fire” may hold the answer as to why.

Who Should Read “Stealing Fire”? And Why?

If you are living on this planet, you probably know who Malcolm Gladwell is and what the rule of 10,000 hours he popularized refers to. Put plain and simple: if you want to become a master at something, be sure to spend years and years training to do that something.

Well, “Stealing Fire” is about those who believe in shortcuts: according to Steven Kotler and Jamie Wheal, high performance is nowadays much more linked to states of altered consciousness than it is with grit and habits.

Those who simply want to learn more about altered consciousness are welcomed to read this book as well.

About Steven Kotler and Jamie Wheal

Steven KotlerSteven Kotler is an American journalist, author, and entrepreneur.

One of the leading experts on high performance, he is most famous for his several nonfiction books, three of which are already considered classics in the field: “Bold,” “The Rise of Superman” and, especially, “Abundance.”

He is also the co-founder of the Flow Genome Project.

Jamie WhealJamie Wheal is an American author, an expert in leadership and peak performance.

He has advised numerous executives, owners of sports teams and athletes.

A historical anthropologist by degree, Wheal’s studies have been published in peer-review academic journals and anthologies.

“Stealing Fire PDF Summary”

The myth of Prometheus stealing the divine fire and gifting it to mankind is probably one of the most famous myths in history.

No wonder it has inspired numerous authors to call Prometheus a champion of mankind and think of fire as the fundamental building block of progress and civilization.

In “Stealing Fire,” Steven Kotler and Jamie Wheal use this myth as the underlying metaphor to make a rather controversial case: just like Zeus in Greek mythology, the governments and the corporations of today are keeping “the fire of altered consciousness” to themselves – and we need a few Prometheuses to steal it!

Why?

Because we have science on our side, and they are consciously preventing us from experiencing one of the most beautiful states a person can experience in his or her life: a state the Greeks referred to as ecstasis, and one that Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi decided to rechristen it as “flow.” (Kotler and Wheal stick to the ancient terminology.)

Namely, the state of fully immersing yourself in the present in such a way which will make you experience it in all of its richness, completeness, and timelessness:

In case you still don’t know what we’re talking about, ecstasis is something you have/can/will experience while having sex or, if you practice it, during a session of deep meditation.

And, yes – after taking psychedelic drugs.

All of these things lead to a state of altered consciousness which is defined by four characteristics, neatly grouped under the acronym STER:

#1. Selflessness: your prefrontal cortex is a quite recent formation designed to separate you from the rest. However, this means that it is constantly anxious; in the state of ecstasis, people shut off their selves and are capable of experiencing “collective awareness.”

#2. Timelessness: unfortunately, no matter how many books have been written about the power of now, we are evolutionarily designed much too imperfectly to be able to live in the present:

Under normal conditions, with an active prefrontal cortex constantly scanning scenarios in the past and the future, we spend very little time living completely in the present… When our attention is focused on the present, we stop scanning yesterday for painful experiences… We quit daydreaming about a tomorrow that’s better than today. With our prefrontal cortex offline, we can’t run those scenarios.

In the state of ecstasis, however, time is suddenly non-existent, and everything there is in the world is the present moment. Already breathing a sigh of relief, ha?

#3. Effortlessness: in ecstasis, your brain releases six neurochemicals: norepinephrine, dopamine, endorphins, serotonin, oxytocin, and anandamide. These make you feel as if you are a master of your craft and as if you are on your way to producing a masterpiece.

#4. Richness: in the state of ecstasis, you are able to make connections much faster than in a normal state; thus, you are able to see things in a new light and bring disparate ideas together in a way which should help you generate an abundance of completely original solutions and new ideas.

We have terabytes of information available to us,” note Kotler and Wheal; “we just can’t tap into it in our normal state.

Now, before you say “a completely unsubstantiated apology for using psychedelic drugs,” bear with us for a few more moments!

First of all, do you know that humans are not the only animals who take drugs? (Before you say anything: yes, we are animals!)

Strangely enough, despite the potentially adverse health effects, it seems that many members of the animal kingdom use drugs in one way or another.

That’s the reason why dogs lick toads and why cats like catnip so much. Goats have been known to eat magic mushrooms since the dawn of times. And bottlenose dolphins toss puffer fish back and forth to, well, get high: the process helps them ingest micro-doses of the puffer fish’s neurotoxins!

Much more interestingly, it seems that some drugs are not as harmful as some other substances, which, for some reason, have been legal for centuries.

And this is not a claim merely thrown out there, but something David Nutt, one of the most respected British neuropsychopharmacologists maintains, backing it up with proper studies and data.

It seems that alcohol does more harm to both its consumers and society than do even heroin and crack cocaine, while tobacco is unhealthier than both cannabis and LSD!

See for yourself:

So, why are tobacco and alcohol allowed and LSD and cannabis forbidden?

Possibly because, unlike the former two, the latter pair tends to make people less manageable and more empowered, just like sex does, just as meditation does. And not because psychedelic drugs are more harmful than cigarettes or whiskey!

Now, don’t get us wrong: everything comes with a caveat.

Even sex.

But, then again,

The ecstasy will always come with the agony; that’s the human condition.

Key Lessons from “Stealing Fire”

1.      The Altered States Economy
2.      Eric Schmidt and the Burning Man
3.      Constant State of Flow

The Altered States Economy

At a time when you are expected to deliver great results on a daily basis, not only distractions aren’t your friend, but also the normal, default state of your mind may be your enemy.

That’s why, everybody wants to experience something more, obtaining a state of ecstasy and euphoria, a state of the perfect workflow.

Many of the ways to achieve this are perfectly legal: sex, meditation, coffee, cigarettes, alcohol, legal drugs, VR, other types of immersive experiences, social media.

Combined, these account for about $4 trillion of the US economy on an annual basis.

And that’s how fabulously much “the altered states economy” is worth.

Eric Schmidt and the Burning Man

You probably know who Eric Schmidt is.

If not, here are the two most important highlights: he is one of the richest people in the world and the CEO of Google from 2001 to 2015, as well as Alphabet Inc. the next two years.

Now, do you know how Sergey Brin and Larry Page finally settled on him?

Believe it or not, because he was able to prove his courage and determination by attending the Burning Man festival.

Don’t know what that is?

Bearing in mind the subject of this book, you already know that it’s an altered-consciousness related festival.

But, please, google it to find out more. And while doing that, have in mind that it’s where Elon Musk’s hyperlink train was first conceived!

Constant State of Flow

Ecstasis is a state during which one is able to experience selflessness, timelessness, effortlessness, and richness. Needless to add, it’s something few would argue to experience at least five to ten times a day.

But, try to imagine having sex as many times, and you’ll see why a constant state of flow is not a goal to be desired. In the cases of some other ecstasies-inducing experiences, it may be even worse: a lot, lot worse.

Which is something you should never forget, since, nowadays, ecstasies lie within your grasp and it is just too tempting?

So, choose your moments of ecstasy wisely. And use them to enrich your life – not destroy it.

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“Stealing Fire Quotes”

The human brain remains the most complex machine on the planet. Click To Tweet

Advances in science and technology are giving us unprecedented access to and insight about the upper range of human experience. Click To Tweet

If you train your body and brain, and manage your energy and attention, you’ll be able to get into the flow more frequently and perform better at work and at home. Click To Tweet

Once we step beyond taboos and social conditioning, it’s easier to see that access to ecstasis has been hardwired into us. Click To Tweet

The ecstasy will always come with the agony; that’s the human condition. Click To Tweet

Our Critical Review

Controversial and provocative, “Stealing Fire” is – to quote its blurb – “a guidebook for anyone who wants to radically upgrade their life.”

Well worth (at least) a read.

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Feeling Good PDF Summary

Feeling Good PDF SummaryThe New Mood Therapy: The Clinically Proven Drug-Free Treatment for Depression

If you suffer from some mild form of depression – or even anxiety, PTSD and substance abuse – “Feeling Good” can help you possibly even more than medications.

But even if you suffer from major depressive disorder, please read this book and use its suggestions in combination with your medications.

It does help.

Who Should Read “Feeling Good”? And Why?

According to the World Health Organization, 300 million people around the world suffer from depression. In more comprehensible terms, that is almost equal to the whole population of the United States, and it amounts to about 1 in every 25 people!

If you are one of them, “Feeling Good” is certainly a book that should be on your radar. It’s the book which basically introduced the world to cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), according to Wikipedia, “the most widely used evidence-based practice at improving mental health.”

Which means that Burns’ subtitle is not an exaggeration.

We certainly hope the same will prove true in your case as well.

About David D. Burns

David D. BurnsDavid D. Burns is an adjunct professor emeritus in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at the Stanford University School of Medicine.

He is primarily known as the popularizer of Aaron T. Beck’s cognitive behavioral therapy through his “Feeling Good” bestselling series of books.

Burns is the recipient of numerous awards and honors.

“Feeling Good PDF Summary”

About half a century ago, David D. Burns received an M.D. from the Stanford University School of Medicine. Three years later, he went to the University of Pennsylvania to start his training as a psychiatric resident.

Fortunately for him, a guy named Aaron T. Beck, now regarded as “the father of cognitive therapy,” was doing his pioneering work in the field during these very years.

Contrary to what Freud and most psychoanalytic approaches taught at that time, Beck was all but certain that depression wasn’t an emotional state, but a cognitive problem.

He devised this theory by working closely with depressed people and realizing that most of them had actually a lot of friends and had managed to achieve a lot in life but were still stuck in an emotional prison which made them feel as “losers” and “loved-by-no-one” outcasts.

Now, how could that be? – Beck thought.

Or, to rephrase that, if an emotion is an uncontrollable natural reaction to an external event, then why are some people so unhappy even though, rationally examined, the events which trigger this unhappiness are, at worst, agreeable?

His answer: because thoughts predate – and, even more, create – feelings.

And that’s the first of the three principles of cognitive behavioral therapy:

#1. To formulate it once again, this time in the words of Burns, “all your moods are created by your ‘cognitions,’ or thoughts.”
#2. Consequently, depression is nothing more but the result of negative thinking, i.e., “when you are feeling depressed, your thoughts are dominated by a pervasive negativity.”
#3. Your negative thoughts function the same way the mirrors in amusement parks do: “negative thoughts which cause your emotional turmoil nearly always contain gross distortions.”

To sum up – no matter how naïve it may sound:

Every bad feeling you have is the result of your distorted negative thinking.

Now, since feelings, in turn, influence your thoughts, depression is actually the result of a wicked Catch-22: the worse you feel, the more grotesque and misleading your thoughts are, which creates even more depressing and dispiriting feelings.

Fortunately, there is a way out?

So, “what is the key to releasing yourself from your emotional prison?”

Simply this: Your thoughts create your emotions; therefore, your emotions cannot prove that your thoughts are accurate. Unpleasant feelings merely indicate that you are thinking something negative and believing it. Your emotions follow your thoughts just as surely as baby ducks follow their mother.

In simpler words, according to cognitive behavioral therapists, depression is not an emotional disorder, but a thinking problem.

And can be solved by challenging the suffering person’s negative thoughts, i.e., cognitive distortions.

Burns lists eleven of them:

#1. All-or-Nothing Thinking. Technically known as “dichotomous thinking,” all-or-nothing thinking is when you portray yourself in black-or-white terms. It’s obviously not true that it’s worthless if it’s not perfect.

#2. Overgeneralization. If something happened to you once, it doesn’t mean it will happen to you again. And even if it happened to you twice, the third time may be the charm!

#3. Mental Filter. Also known as “selective abstraction,” mental filtering means being unhappy because of that lost point on your exam even though you got an A. Really?!

#4. Disqualifying the Positive. Nothing good ever happens to you? How about the fact that your boyfriend kissed you lovingly this morning, or that you were promoted just a week ago! All of that matters!

#5. Jumping to Conclusions. This can come in at least two different forms: as mind-reading (“I know she doesn’t like me…”) or fortune telling (“I can feel something’s bad about to happen!”)

#6. Magnification. This is when you start worrying about your lifetime reputation because everyone saw you spilled your coffee on your shirt this morning. Also known as – somewhat unscientifically, but quite fittingly – “catastrophizing.”

#7. Minimization. Ah, the other side of the “binocular trick”: shrinking things until they become insignificant, be they other people’s imperfections or your own qualities.

#8. Emotional Reasoning. Your emotions are not true; if they were, then how would you explain the fact that you wanted to smack your sister on the head with a frying pan that time she invaded the privacy of your room? Consequently, if you feel like a dud, that doesn’t mean you are a dud.

#9. Should Statements. This is when you try to improperly motivate yourself by saying “I should do this” or “I must do this.”

#10. (Mis)Labeling. “Personal labeling,” writes Burns, “means creating a completely negative self-image based on your errors. Mislabeling involves describing an event with words that are inaccurate and emotionally heavily loaded.”

#11. Personalization. Personalization means assuming personal responsibility for an event contrary to the evidence. Burns calls this distortion “the mother of guilt.”

If you want to learn more about cognitive distortions, read here.

And then start doing something about them!

Key Lessons from “Feeling Good”

1.      Your Feelings Are Actually Mirroring Your Thoughts
2.      The Three Principles of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
3.      The Real Founder of CBT: Epictetus

Your Feelings Are Actually Mirroring Your Thoughts

Most people think that they should believe their gut.

In other words, that if their feelings tell them that something is true – this guy is bad, that girl is the love of my life – it is inevitably true.

The problem?

Feelings are not merely transitory, but they are also just a reflection of your thoughts.

Consequently, almost all of your bad feelings are actually negative thoughts.

The Three Principles of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), an evidence-based practice for improving your mental health, is based on three principles first developed by Aaron T. Beck:

#1. Our emotions are created by our thoughts; how you are feeling at the moment is actually the same as what you are currently thinking about;
#2. Depression is an emotional prison created by constant negative thoughts;
#3. The majority of our negative thoughts are not true, i.e., they are cognitive distortions.

The Real Founder of CBT: Epictetus

As Burns points out, CBT is actually as old as philosophy, since it shares some of its beliefs with Stoicism.

In other words, thinkers as ancient as Epictetus realized that our happiness doesn’t depend on the external events themselves, but on the way we decide to feel about them.

So, if you are feeling depressed, find some solace in Marcus Aurelius’ “Meditations” or Seneca’s “On the Shortness of Life.”

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Our Critical Review

When a book is written with an objective to help you, the only question that really matters is “does it in practice?”

A 1989 article says it does. And a 2005 study published in the “British Journal of General Practice” confirms this.

It’s something scientists call “bibliotherapy” and we strongly advise you to try it by reading this very book.

At worst, it has no side-effects.

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Make Your Bed PDF Summary

Make Your Bed PDF Summary

Little Things That Can Change Your Life… And Maybe the World

You want to change the world.

Start off by making your bed.

Don’t believe us?

Then, let us rephrase that in the words of a decorated United States Navy admiral:

Make Your Bed!”

Who Should Read “Make Your Bed”? And Why?

In “Make Your Bed” Admiral William H. McRaven shares the 10 most valuable life lessons he learned by being a part of the US military.

As he says himself, they are universally comprehensible and applicable, so it doesn’t matter who you are or whether you like the military or not.

“Change in the world can happen anywhere,” emphasizes McRaven, “and anyone can do it.”

About William H. McRaven

William H. McRavenWilliam H. McRaven is a retired US Navy admiral.

He last served as the commander of the United States Special Operations Command (2011 – 2014), a position he got after serving for three years as the Commander of Joint Special Operations Command (2008 – 2011).

Back in 1995, Spec Ops, the first of the two books he has so far authored was published.

In 2012, he was played by Christopher Stanley in the Academy Award-winning movie chronicling the manhunt for Osama bin Laden, “Zero Dark Thirty,” and a year later he appeared as himself in the documentary “Dirty Wars.”

“Make Your Bed PDF Summary”

William H. McRaven is 1977 graduate of the University of Texas at Austin and a decorated United States Navy admiral.

How are these things related between themselves, or, for that matter, to this book?

Well, McRaven retired from the Navy – after more than 37 years of service – on August 28, 2014.

About three months before that, as still the Commander of United States Special Operations Command, he addressed the Class of 2014 at the University of Texas at Austin.

The commencement speech went viral and has been viewed, in different versions, more than 10 million times.

We link it below.

But, before you watch it, we feel obliged to add a “spoiler alert” tag: it’s basically this book in 20 minutes minus some of the anecdotes and stories:

As you might have already heard (in case you decided to watch McRaven’s speech before going on to read this summary), Admiral McRaven was inspired to share the 10 most valuable lessons he learned as part of the US military by the slogan of his alma mater: “what starts here changes the world.”

The question is – he adds after pointing this out – what the world will look like after it is changed.

So as to make sure that it looks better (of which he has no doubt to start with), he makes ten (once again: universally applicable) suggestions, which, chiseled and polished up a bit, make up the titles of the ten chapters of his book.

So here they are, “the 10 lessons [McRaven] learned from basic SEAL training that hopefully will be of value to you as you move forward in life.”

Key Lessons from “Make Your Bed”

1.      Start Your Day with a Task Completed
2.      You Can’t Go It Alone
3.      Only the Size of Your Heart Matters
4.      Life’s Not Fair – Drive On!
5.      Failure Can Make You Stronger
6.      You Must Dare Greatly
7.      Stand Up to the Bullies
8.      Rise to the Occasion
9.      Give People Hope
10.      Never, Ever Quit

#1. Start Your Day with a Task Completed

One of the first things you’ll learn if you want to take part of the basic training for being a member of the US Seal team is – the proper way to make your bed.

And that is lesson #1: always start your day by making your bed.

How will that change the world, you ask?

Well, it’s actually not the making of the bed that matters; it’s the discipline you put into it and, more importantly, the fact that, by making your bed, you are starting your day on a high note: already with a task completed.

The bonus: no matter how bad the rest of the day is, you’ll always come home to a made bed.

#2. You Can’t Go It Alone

Even a superhero has a sidekick – and you need plenty of them. To use McRaven’s example: if you want to steer a boat faster, you’ll need to find people to paddle with you.

And if you suffer a near-fatal parachute incident, you’ll need a partner to carry you through the pain and the depression (yes, that actually happened to McRaven):

None of us are immune from life’s tragic moments… It takes a good team of people to get you to your destination in life. You cannot paddle the boat alone. Find someone to share your life with. Make as many friends as possible, and never forget that your success depends on others.

#3. Only the Size of Your Heart Matters

“Life’s battles don’t always go to the stronger or faster man,” wrote a fairly obscure poet sometime in the early 20th century; “but sooner or later the man who wins/ is the one who thinks he can!”

McRaven has, basically, the same advice: the best team during his Navy training was actually the one who was most often the butt of the jokes on account of the size of its members’ flippers.

But, it’s not the size of the paddles that counts; it’s the size of the heart. The passion and the perseverance.

So, please, don’t judge a book by its cover. Judge it by its content.

#4. Life’s Not Fair – Drive On!

“The universe,” writes Neil deGrasse Tyson, “is under no obligation to make sense to you.”

In other words, there’s a big chance that life is not going to treat you fair.

But blaming your lot on some outside force is both easy and wrong. What’s right is learning how to accept and rise above the unfairness.

“The common people and the great men and women,” concludes McRaven, “are all defined by how they deal with life’s unfairness.”

#5. Failure Can Make You Stronger

During his SEAL Navy training, McRaven was part of a swimming team which always finished last.

Their punishment?

The Circus, i.e., an endurance test which has made many cadets give up.

However, in the case of McRaven, the failure to win the swimming races only made him stronger: for the graduation test, he was part of the winning team.

So, keep calm – and fail forward.

#6. You Must Dare Greatly

Don’t be afraid to take risks:

Life is a struggle and the potential for failure is ever present, but those who live in fear of failure, or hardship, or embarrassment, will never achieve their potential.  Without pushing your limits, without occasionally sliding down the rope headfirst, without daring greatly, you will never know what is truly possible in your life.

#7. Stand Up to the Bullies

As part of their training, McRaven and his teammate were once commanded to swim four miles through potentially shark-infested waters. Refusing the task meant not completing the SEAL training.

So, as afraid as they were, they didn’t.

The lesson?

You’ll encounter many sharks – whether bullies or personal fears – on your path to greatness.

Stand up to them.

#8. Rise to the Occasion

Sometimes it’s inevitable that you’ll lose a loved one.

Unfortunately, no amount of shouting and screaming, no amount of sulking or depression, will ever change that.

Being a soldier, McRaven has learned this the hard way.

What you’re left with is to rise to the challenge and endure.

#9. Give People Hope

Sometimes, all it takes is just a little pat on the shoulder.

Or a song.

For example, during McRaven’s Hell Week (the dreaded seven-day endurance test which makes or breaks a SEAL), one of the guys was about to call it quits, when another started singing a song.

Soon, everybody joined in.

And even though it was past midnight and they were all covered in cold mud, somehow, they felt a bit more hopeful.

And they persevered!

#10. Never, Ever Quit

Don’t give up!

If a Navy SEAL who has lost both legs can find some meaning in life, certainly you can too, no matter how bad your day is.

No matter what happens, it’s your job to be unbroken.

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Our Critical Review

Though certainly not groundbreaking (far from it), “Make Your Bed” is as inspirational as is William McRaven’s brilliant commencement speech.

Meaning: it’s one of those books you just can’t buy only one copy of.

Take our word for it: we’ve given at least six of them as gifts.

And had we known you personally, we probably would have gifted one to you as well.

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Love & Respect PDF Summary

Love & Respect PDF SummaryThe Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

Do you speak the language of love?

Or, let us rephrase that: do you know that in the dictionary of women, relationship is spelled C-O-U-P-L-E and in the dictionary of men, it is spelled C-H-A-I-R-S?

Wait… what?

Read our summary of “Love & Respect” to find out!

Who Should Read “Love & Respect”? And Why?

“Love & Respect” is a book everyone should read: couples who argue because they argue, couples who don’t because there’s a very high chance that they will (come on, guys, you’re barely in the second month of your relationship; it’s a bit different later on).

Due to its Christian undertones in the first two parts and explicit Christian message in the last one, “Love & Respect” will probably be enjoyed the most by religious couples of almost any Christian denominations.

About Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

Dr. Emerson EggerichsDr. Emerson Eggerichs is the author of the “Love & Respect” series of books and the president of Love and Respect Ministries.

After obtaining a B.A. in Biblical studies, an M.A. in Communications, and a Master of Divinity degree from Dubuque Seminary, Eggerichs worked as a senior pastor of East Lansing’s Trinity Church for almost two decades.

In the meantime, he received a Ph.D. in Child and Family ecology from Michigan State University and authored his most famous book, “Love & Respect.”

He gives marriage conferences throughout the country and works closely with his wife Sarah, with whom he has lived in a happy marriage for almost half a century.

“Love & Respect PDF Summary”

“Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself,” instructs the men St. Paul the Apostle in his “Epistle to the Ephesians,” “and the wife must respect her husband.”

According to Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, in that very verse, the Bible says more about relationships than all the great poets, philosophers, and researchers who have ever lived or will ever be born.

And that is because, in his opinion, love and respect are the primary emotional needs of women and men respectively, which makes them as necessary to the wellbeing of each respective gender as air or food:

Wives are made to love, want to love, and expect love. Husbands are made to be respected, want respect, and expect respect.

True, Eggerichs doesn’t go that much into original psychological or scientific explanation as to why this should be true, but he offers numerous examples to prove his point, in addition to a supposedly surefire strategy to put it into practice and reap the rewards for your efforts.

Accordingly, the book itself is divided into three main sections:

PART ONE: THE CRAZY CYCLE

This is the theoretical section, analyzing in much more detail St. Paul’s above-quoted verse, and illustrating how all unhappy families are, in fact, unhappy in the same way, since they are all trapped in the identical no love/no respect succession of arguments.

This is, in a nutshell, the Crazy Cycle from the title: without love, she reacts in a disrespectful way; without respect, he reacts in an unloving way.

Why?

Because unlike women who usually see the world through pink sunglasses, men most often use blue sunglasses.

When men and women argue, these differing points of view escalate to the point of no return (Even Wittgenstein would say that we don’t visualize the meaning of words in the same way…)

PART TWO: THE ENERGIZING CYCLE

The only way to stop the Crazy Cycle spinning is to reverse it!

Because just the way a woman’s disrespect demotivates a man’s love and vice versa,

His love motivates her respect; her respect motivates his love.

So, in probably the most important section of his book, Dr. Eggerichs offers two strategies to energize the cycle of marriage: C-O-U-P-L-E for the men, and C-H-A-I-R-S for the women.

C-O-U-P-L-E: How to Spell Love to Your Wife

Closeness: She wants you to be close.
Openness: She wants you to open up to her.
Understanding: Don’t try to fix her; just listen.
Peacemaking: She wants you to say, “I’m sorry.”
Loyalty: She needs to know you’re committed.
Esteem: She wants you to honor and cherish her.

C-H-A-I-R-S: How to Spell Respect to Your Husband

Conquest: Appreciate his desire to work and achieve.
Hierarchy: Appreciate his desire to protect and provide.
Authority: Appreciate his desire to serve and to lead.
Insight: Appreciate his desire to analyze and counsel.
Relationship: Appreciate his desire for shoulder-to-shoulder friendship.
Sexuality: Appreciate his desire for sexual intimacy.

As Dr. Eggerichs concludes in the last chapter of this part, “the energizing cycle will work if you do.”

In other words, since everybody needs to be loved, love cannot be a passive activity. And as John Gottman demonstrated, marriages succeed not because couples don’t argue, but because they find a way to reach a compromise.

For the men, a compromise might mean listening to their girlfriends or wives and not trying to fix them; for the women, it may mean acting vulnerable and agreeing to be led.

But there’s no going forward unless both sides leave some of their burdens behind.

Your job, regardless of your spouse’s doings?

To “be the first to ‘seek peace and pursue it’ (1 Peter 3:11).”

PART THREE: THE REWARDED CYCLE

In the final part of his book, Dr. Eggerichs suggests that there is another cycle following the energizing one, and this one is the cycle where both partners uncover the real reason why they should love.

Since Dr. Eggerichs is a Christian author, it’s only expected that the reason is none other than God Himself.

If you love someone because you believe Paul’s words the greatest of all things is love (1 Corinthians 13:13), then you can truly love someone, regardless of how much she respects you (if you are a man) or how much he loves you back (if you are a woman).

The rewarded cycle is the cycle where “His love blesses regardless of her respect, and her respect blesses regardless of his love.”

Key Lessons from “Love & Respect”

1.      The Crazy Cycle is the No Love/No Respect Doom of All Marriages
2.      A Woman Wants to Be in a C-O-U-P-L-E
3.      A Man Needs His C-H-A-I-R-S

The Crazy Cycle is the No Love/No Respect Doom of All Marriages

If you are in a relationship and you have a lot of arguments with your partner, there’s a high chance that this is due the fact that you think that she doesn’t respect you (if you are a man) or that he doesn’t love you (if you are a woman).

It’s a crazy cycle this one, since once any of you two sets it off, it’s very difficult to stop it.

Why?

Because if the man shows no love, it makes the woman act in a disrespectful way, which encourages the man to act in a loveless manner.

A Woman Wants to Be in a C-O-U-P-L-E

To stop the crazy cycle, you need to energize your relationship.

If you are a man, show your woman that you are a C-O-U-P-L-E.

In other words, be close and open up to her; understand her and try to be the peacemaker in the relationship; finally, show her that you are loyal and that you esteem her highly.

A Man Needs His C-H-A-I-R-S

OK, it may sound a little bit funny in a title, but it’s not at all funny once you break down that acronym!

So, if you are a woman, always make your man feel like a conqueror and appreciate his desire to be the best at everything and above you in all hierarchies (even though, let’s face it, you’re way better than him: wink, wink); next, respect his authority and value his insight.

Finally, appreciate his desire for shoulder-to-shoulder relationship and, let’s face it, his needs for sexual intimacy.

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No husband feels affection toward a wife who appears to have contempt for who he is as a human being. The key to creating fond feelings of love in a husband toward his wife is through showing him unconditional respect. Click To Tweet When a husband feels disrespected, it is especially hard to love his wife. When a wife feels unloved, it is especially hard to respect her husband. Click To Tweet Forgiving is the direct opposite of judging. Nothing is easier than judging, nothing is harder than forgiving, and nothing can reap more blessings. Click To Tweet Women confront to connect. The typical response from a man, however, is that he thinks his wife is confronting to control. Click To Tweet

Our Critical Review

“Love & Respect” puts too many chips on one bet and it may be a bit too Christian for some people’s taste.

However, other than that, it’s actually very balanced, and it provides readers of all genders with valuable insight about the common failings of all relationships and even more valuable tools to repair them.

If it is up to us, though, love and respect go hand in hand, and all sexes need large quantities of them both.

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How to Talk About Your Accomplishments Without Sounding Braggy and Annoying PDF Summary

How to Talk About Your Accomplishments Without Sounding Braggy and Annoying PDFHesitant to share an accomplishment with your loved ones so as to not sound too irritating?

Time for a brief lesson by Alexandra Franzen:

How to Talk About Your Accomplishments Without Sounding Braggy and Annoying.”

Who Should Read “How to Talk About Your Accomplishments Without Sounding Braggy and Annoying”? And Why?

If you have accomplished something, and you want to share it (and your joy) with your friends, but don’t want to toot your own horn (so as to not disturb the delicate balance of the universe), you can use Franzen’s tips and tricks and actually do all of those things.

Don’t believe us?

Read ahead!

Alexandra FranzenAbout Alexandra Franzen

Alexandra Franzen is a Portland-based writer and consultant.

Mostly interested in topics such as productivity, creativity, goal-setting, communication, and entrepreneurship, Franzen has had her writing featured in magazines such as “Time,” “Forbes” and “The Huffington Post.”

She has written two books so far: “50 Days to Say You’re Awesome” and “You’re Going to Survive.”

“How to Talk About Your Accomplishments Without Sounding Braggy and Annoying PDF Summary”

Alexandra Franzen may not have a Wikipedia article just yet, but she does have a pretty visited webpage, an ever-growing fanbase, and few books to her name.

Even so, one day, soon after having her first book, “50 Days to Say You’re Awesome,” published, when asked by a friend of hers “So what’s been going on for you lately?,” she replied the same way most of us regular Joes would do: “Oh, you know… things… and stuff.”

Fortunately, this friend of hers was one who knew about her book, so she (or he) didn’t want to accept that kind of nonsensical answer, pressing Alexandra to say something more about her book.

But Franzen wouldn’t give in: “It’s really just an illustrated book. Barely any writing. Plus, it’s not like it’s a bestseller or anything…”

And then her friend said something that struck the author of “How to Talk About Your Accomplishments Without Sounding Braggy and Annoying” to her very core:

‘Alex, you wrote a book, and it’s being sold in bookstores,’ she said, matter-of-factly. ‘That is amazing. I’m proud of you. Let me be happy for you. Stop downsizing your joy.’

However, as you are about to learn, in social conventions and friendly conversations, the opposite of downsizing isn’t aggrandizing, but, well, being nice while joyful.

And Franzen shares her five rules on how you can do just that.

And we have our “Key Lessons” section reserved just for them.

Key Lessons from “How to Talk About Your Accomplishments Without Sounding Braggy and Annoying”

1.      Keep It Simple
2.      Whenever Possible, Use “Because”
3.      Discuss the Future of Hard Work Ahead of You
4.      Make It a Conversation, Not a Monologue
5.      Shift the Conversation… Even Further

Keep It Simple

Accomplishing something doesn’t mean using every opportunity to go off on an hour-long rant (or, to use Franzen’s word “ramble-fest”) about how you showed your high school classmates that you’re better them.

And it doesn’t mean overstating the accomplishment or glorifying your discipline and dedication.

Be simple and matter-of-factly: “I just got promoted at work. I think I am capable of rising up to the challenge.”

No exclamation marks!

Whenever Possible, Use “Because”

Franzen informs us that a Harvard research study has all but proved that using the word “because” results in people agreeing with you much more likely.

So, to use Franzen’s example, say something along the lines of:

I’m really excited about my promotion to a senior-level position because I want to live in a world where 50% of CEOs are female, instead of just 4.6%.

Discuss the Future of Hard Work Ahead of You

Staying still with our promotion-related example (we think you can easily translate the strategy into almost every other situation when you have to talk about your accomplishments).

For most people, telling them that you’ve just been promoted to a senior-level position is not much different from telling them that you’re about to earn much more money for doing a lot less work.

So, counter this from the start: “I just got promoted at work to a senior-level position. It’s a lot more challenging and time-consuming job, but I think I have the right motivation and state of mind. And I’m going to prove to them that they made the right choice.”

Make It a Conversation, Not a Monologue

And… stop there.

If you go on talking about yourself after these few sentences, you’ve broken rule #1, i.e., you’ve not kept things simple.

Now, it’s time to engage your friend in this (so far) quite boring discussion which includes him/her not one bit.

So, start talking about your friend’s recent accomplishments.

In case there are none, and he/she hates his/her job, ask him/her something like “What would be your dream job?” or “Do you have a fantasy career?”

This should open up the conversation and earn you some friendship points.

Shift the Conversation… Even Further

Don’t stop there.

In case you notice that the news about your accomplishment has made your friend even less happy – be even more generous!

And spend as much time as you need to get him/her to talk about something positive and upbeat.

The world, after all, doesn’t revolve around you.

So, never forget that when things go your way, there are many people around you whose lives haven’t been as generous.

It’s your turn.

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“How to Talk About Your Accomplishments Without Sounding Braggy and Annoying Quotes”

People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. (Via Maya Angelou) Click To Tweet

People may forget your accomplishments and career successes, but if you can make someone feel valued and appreciated, like they’ve got a real friend and cheerleader on their team? Click To Tweet

Stop downsizing your joy. Click To Tweet

So often, in life, we downplay our accomplishments because we don’t want to be irritating, sound braggy, or take too much credit for making big, exciting things happen. Click To Tweet

Your friends, your colleagues, your future employer, new people at your local industry mixer—they’d all love to hear something excellent and inspiring. Click To Tweet

Our Critical Review

“How to Talk About Your Accomplishments Without Sounding Braggy and Annoying” may be nothing more than one more uninspiring article compiling in a list few commonsense things everybody should know and do, but – since the latter is not the case – the former is certainly not the case either.

In other words, for all its brevity, “How to Talk About Your Accomplishments Without Sounding Braggy and Annoying” should inspire you to become a better and more caring person.

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You Can Heal Your Life PDF Summary

You Can Heal Your Life PDFDoctors?

Who needs doctors?

Louise Hay says:

You Can Heal Your Life”!

Who Should Read “You Can Heal Your Life”? And Why?

If you believe that your mind and your body are connected and that you have power over your own destiny – then read this book!

It’s one of the earliest to propose this.

And still one of the best.

Louise HayAbout Louise Hay

Louise Hay was an American bestselling motivational author, one of the founders of the self-help movement.

Published in 1984, her international bestseller “You Can Heal Your Life” has sold over 50 million copies and has been translated into more than 30 languages.

She died in 2017.

Find out more at https://www.louisehay.com/

“You Can Heal Your Life PDF Summary”

In “Is It True?,” the fourth chapter of her extraordinarily popular 1984 classic “You Can Heal Your Life,” Louise Hay seems to have put down in writing a justification for her book:

I have never understood the importance of having children memorize battle dates. It seems like such a waste of mental energy. Instead, we could teach them important subjects such as How the Mind Works, How to Handle Finances, How to Invest Money for Financial Security, How to be a Parent, How to Create Good Relationships, and How to Create and Maintain Self-Esteem and Self-Worth.

Can you imagine what a whole generation of adults would be like if they had been taught these subjects in school along with their regular curriculum?

In “You Can Heal Your Life” – a seminal work in the field of self-help literature – Hay has attempted to write a book for this new generation of adults, a sort of an alternative curriculum to life and everything else.

The main premise is very simple:

Everything is connected, and you can change your world by sheer mental power – from your body to your well-being to the nature of your very spirit.

Sounds too Secret-like?

That’s because it is!

Hay’s influence on subsequent authors in the genre is immeasurable – after all, her books have sold over 50 million copies – so don’t be too surprised to learn that you are already familiar with some of her ideas.

The gist of them is presented in the introductory chapter, “What I Believe,” which comprises the first part of this book on its own.

Its opening sentence has been quoted so many times that it has become an anthological one:

What we think about ourselves becomes the truth for us.

In other words, we are responsible for everything that is happening to us, since “the thoughts we think and the words we speak create our experiences.”

The root of all problems?

The innermost belief Louise Hay considers the main culprit for everything bad in your life?

A very simple, but, unfortunately, tremendously powerful thought:

I’m not good enough!

According to whose standards?

And to whom?

To make matters worse, this is as true as much as you believe in it.

Literally!

Because it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy: you make yourself not good enough by thinking that you are not. While you are sleeping, walking, talking, or doing any of your obligatory everyday activities – your mind relays this message to the Universe, and the Universe does everything in its power to transform it into reality.

The good news:

You can reverse this!

And Louise Hay provides you with an eight-chapter’ long psychoanalytical session, coupled with preparatory affirmations, relevant exercises and treatments, and a closing mantra.

The mantra always opens with “In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole, and complete” and concludes with the ever wonderful “All is well in my world.”

This comprises the second part of “You Can Heal Your Life” in which you can learn in detail about the true origin of this problem and what you should do to transcend it and start building your life anew.

Needless to say, the belief that you are not good enough or that you don’t deserve happiness stems from your early childhood years, when you had been inadvertently exposed to this kind of beliefs shared by the adults around you.

For the simple reason that your parents and their friends are actually not too dissimilar to you.

A quick rational check of these traditional beliefs should be enough to tell you how wrong they are: boys do cry, and women can handle money.

And even though they are untrue, these beliefs limit your vistas.

To transcend them, start examining them one by one more regularly and let go of the false ones the minute you realize their inaccuracy.

Next, try shifting your mindset from “I should” to “I could” so that “I should start exercising” transforms into “I can start exercising today.”

Adorn this with another important change: turn the negative affirmations into positive ones.

For example, “I don’t want to be fat” should become “I am slender” and “I don’t want to be lonely” is, from now on, “I am filled with love and affection.”

Much like David Hooper’s “Ask, Believe, Receive” is to Rhonda Byrne’s “The Secret,” the third part of “You Can Heal Your Life” is to the second one of this book.

Namely, a practical step-by-step tutorial teaching you how you can put the ideas just presented to work.

Hay has chosen pretty much the same categories as Hooper, teaching you, in very brief lessons, how you can harmonize all your relationships and how you can be deeply fulfilled by your work, in addition to how you can be more successful and experience more prosperity.

Possibly the most famous chapters of the book are the 14th and the 15th in which Hay postulates her theory that “we create every so-called illness in our body,” since it, our body, “like everything else in life, is a mirror of our inner thoughts and beliefs.”

And she tops her theoretical explanation with a long list in which she states the probable cause for every disease – or, in Hay’s dictionary, dis-ease – and the new thought pattern which should help you cure it.

For example, according to Hay, fever is caused by anger, and it should be countered by the mantra “I am the cool, calm expression of peace and love.”

The cause of heartburn, on the other hand, is clutching fear, and the new thought pattern is the following one: “I breathe freely and fully. I am safe. I trust the process of life.”

Hay concludes her book with a story from personal experience, describing how she cured herself of “incurable” cervical cancer via her methods, an event which proved to her once and for all that pills can’t cure a disease.

Instead:

DIS-EASE CAN BE HEALED IF WE ARE WILLING TO CHANGE THE WAY WE THINK AND BELIEVE AND ACT!

Key Lessons from “You Can Heal Your Life”

1.      You Are What You Believe In
2.      Forgiveness Means Letting Go of the Past
3.      Every Disease Is Actually Dis-Ease

You Are What You Believe In

Louise Hay claims that your mind and your body are connected, in such a way that all of your experiences are actually just a mirror of your innermost beliefs.

That’s why it’s very important that you start thinking positively, reciting encouraging and self-assuring affirmations on a daily basis while transforming all of the “shoulds” in your life to “coulds.”

To paraphrase Paulo Coelho’s “The Alchemist” – do this, and all the universe will conspire in helping you become the person you want to be.

Forgiveness Means Letting Go of the Past

A lot of the problems you experience in your present are actually remnants of the past.

Take Hay, for example!

Supposedly, her violent stepfather Ernest Carl Wanzenreid physically abused her, and a neighbor raped her when she was merely 5 years old!

The result of this?

An incurable cervical cancer, which, in Hay’s opinion, is the direct consequence of “deep hurt” and “longstanding resentment” of a “deep secret or grief eating away at the self.”

The solution is straightforward:

Let go of all the hatred.

The best way to do this is by forgiving those the anger against whom holds you back.

Here’s your mantra:

I lovingly forgive and release all of the past. I choose to fill my world with joy. I love and approve of myself.

Every Disease Is Actually Dis-Ease

In Hay’s opinion, just like her cervical cancer, every other disease has a mental origin.

In fact, every disease is actually a dis-ease, that is, a form of discomfort caused by repressed emotions and feelings.

The cure is simple: accept life and yourself, and you will be disease-free!

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“You Can Heal Your Life Quotes”

When we create peace and harmony and balance in our minds, we will find it in our lives. Click To Tweet

I forgive you for not being the way I wanted you to be. I forgive you, and I set you free. Click To Tweet

The past has no power over us. It doesn’t matter how long we have had a negative pattern. The point of power is in the present moment. What a wonderful thing to realize! We can begin to be free in this moment! Click To Tweet

Self-approval and self-acceptance in the now are the main keys to positive changes in every area of our lives. Click To Tweet

When there is a problem, there is not something to do, there is something to know. Click To Tweet

Our Critical Review

Much of “You Can Heal Your Life” is outdated and unscientific.

But, even so, it’s still as inspirational as ever.

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