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Discover the People Principles That Work for You Every Time

Managing human resources as a process is in full-motion since the stone age.

People aligned in groups to improve their chances of survival.

These days, the cutting-edge technology grants us the opportunity to explore the magic in building strong and unbreakable bonds between people.

In this book summary, you’ll get a glimpse at these principles.

Who Should Read “Winning with People”? And Why?

Winning or influencing people has always been the topic of tense debates. Emperors, kings, managers, leaders, opportunists, and careerists, all strive to understand the psychology of influence.

“Winning with People” is best suited for managers and leaders, who wish to pull the strings and act upon the feedback they receive from others.

About John C. Maxwell

John C. Maxwell IS ONE OF AMERICA’S finest authors and experts on leadership and influencing.

He is the author of many bestsellers – 21 Laws of Irrefutable Leadership, Developing the Leader within You, 5 Levels of Leadership, etc.

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So, Maxwell known for its transparent and genuine approach jumps right into the 25 Principles that can enhance your relationships:

1. The Lens Principle

Have you ever wondered – What may destroy or improve relationships? – According to the author, the way people engage themselves in a conversation is a factor number one. For instance, if you suspect other person’s intentions, that may indicate that you feel pretty much the same way about yourself.

2. The Mirror Principle

If there’s anything harder than not judging others, that’s being aware of these notions. Self-awareness is difficult because people are trapped in the endless circle of thoughts. Trying to solve these tendencies amidst all the confusion, creates the mirror effect.

3. The Pain Principle

Often referred to as the pain body – according to Eckhart Tolle; the pain principle illustrates the magnitude of psychological or mental struggle. A person who experiences these sensations is prone to hurting others and judge those who don’t abide by their norms.

4. The Hammer Principle

Being a drama-queen/king is one-ticket to damaging your relationships. Some people have a habit of pushing the panic button on a regular level. Overreacting creates a brick wall between themselves and the interlocutor, and thus obstructs the process of nurturing strong and effective relationships.

5. The Elevator Principle

Don’t be surprised to hear that you’ve got the power to change another person’s life. It sounds even shocking for most people because they would rather indulge in gossiping than assisting other to overcome their insecurity. Their destructive mindset brings about hatred and impatience.

6. The Big Picture Principle

Well, putting the benefits of others above yours is not a popular approach in the capitalist era, now is it? However, if you persist in making and building great bonds with others, they have to witness sacrifice on your part – not just words.

7. The Exchange Principle

Generally speaking, putting yourself in the shoes of others can drastically reduce the judging notion, and help you get the big picture. By doing so, you’ll become a better listener and a more trusted companion.

8. The Learning Principle

What are your thoughts on helping others craft their skills?  Do you have a firm stand? – Make your presence count at any stage by being the “Example” in the room. A bad attitude renders such process impossible and forms invisible barriers.

9. The Charisma Principle

According to Dale Carnegie, a charismatic leader knows how to get the most out of its associates and employees. It’s proven that friendly body language gives positive vibes and incites people to return the favor in the same manner by being creative and productive.

10. People want their achievements recognized

If you constantly try to undermine the achievements of others, you’ll seriously damage the company/organizational performance. Think about your motives and question your ideas that make you undervalue great successes. Without trust and mutual respect – you can’t flourish.

11. The Confrontation Principle

If you and your team are propelled into a hostile situation, the only thing you can do is provide arguments. Conflicts are an integral part of life, and these events shape your decision-making abilities. Don’t fight the current, just act smart and call a meeting to solicit the views of everyone involved.

12.The Bedrock Principle

As we mentioned, the backbone or the cornerstone of every successful bond is trust. The pillars of building such relationship are formed in the fire of mutual understanding. Being a person with integrity or an individual whose words don’t differ from its actions, represents this principle.

13.The Situation Principle

Having the situation under control at all times seems like an impossible task. Temporary defeats can reduce the credence given to your plans, but that must not be an excuse. Even a top athlete can lose its concentration during the game, so don’t judge yourself, and understand that momentary setback is neither the judge nor the jury of your efforts.

14. The Bob Principle

Have you noticed that every group has a black sheep in their ranks? Leaders need to make sure that everyone’s agendas align with the organization/team/company/ plans. Don’t be that problem-maker and provide support to the management.

15. The Approachability Principle

It’s clear as day that people have no inclination talking to people they dislike. Being available to listen to their complaints can really prove to be a win-win situation. Respect their individuality, because in the 21st century, organizations are customer-centric and every single internal/external preference must be met.

16. The Foxhole Principle

They say – Any friend shows its true face when you are in trouble. So, find the ones that don’t back down when things get messy. Find those who can withstand pressure, and don’t succumb to the strain.

17. The Gardening Principle

Think of relationships as flowers; if you don’t put water, they will dry out. So, renewing and watching after these connections is the only path you should take. Otherwise, you won’t be able to cultivate the bonds you create with people.

18. The 101 Percent Principle

Not many individuals take into account each other’s interests. They just want the other party to honor their side of the agreement, and that’s it. Embrace differences and don’t be pulled by greed because that way you’ll damage your reputation.

19. The Patience Principle

In general, groups tend to be a bit slower than individuals. As such, they require more time in preparations, management, delegation, and execution of tasks. So, if you find yourself in a complex environment, be patient, and remain with both feet on the ground.

20. The Celebration Principle

Everyone is dependent on encouragement, especially after a setback. You need to provide cover and support for the actions of your employees. When joint efforts generate great results, make sure to sing the praises of every individual who contributed to the outcome.

21. The High-Road Principle

This principle emphasizes three rather practical approaches to handle different personalities:

• • Middle road – how you would like to be treated.

• • The lower road – a bit worse than your initial demands.

• The high road – to be treated better than your demands.

22.The Boomerang Principle

The 22nd principle gives some honest explanation on the give-and-receive attitude. When you lay eyes on a relationship worth investing; you need to do everything in your power to establish a healthy communication between you and the other party. Help others = help yourself.

23.The Friendship Principle  

Friendship is essential for good business. It’s proven through case studies that the art of making a deal heavily depends on harmony and affinity between the parties. If you possess social skills, you are surely aware of this revelation!

24. The Partnership Principle

Two heads think better than one; two leaders can easily outperform a single decision-maker. Partnerships are vital for keeping the ideas flowing in and out. Benjamin Franklin endorses the same assertion by indicating that self-improvement often works better in a union.

25.The Satisfaction Principle

Sharing similar experiences and encounters can often straighten any problems out among members of the same organization. That’s precisely why people indulge in staying together and have this excitement at the beginning of every relationship.

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Our Critical Review

John Maxwell never disappoints. His actionable tips and effective strategies regarding leadership made him the person he is today.

We cannot think of any misleading info that we encountered while reading this book.

We give our thumbs up!!!  

Emir Zecovic

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